I was reading this great article featured here on Landcruisers about the plus side of dating a divorced man, and I have to ask - isn't this is a no-brainer?
I mean, at my age, I sort of take for granted that most of the men I'll be dating will be that way. The odds are pretty good. And along with their formerly married state comes good and bad history, I'm sure, just like it comes with me. I do feel that a divorced guy has a leg up on a man who's never been married, at least when it comes to dating me, anyway.
The article brings up a lot of the good things about dating a guy who's been in a long-term commitment before, but to me, that commitment - or lack thereof - tells me a lot about the guy. If he's reached my age without ever having a serious, long-term relationship....well, I have to think there's a reason for that, and maybe not a great one. And I don't buy the old "he just never found the right one" line, either. Why didn't he? There are plenty of women out there - surely at least one or two had the potential for something lasting. I would wonder if he was too picky, or too hardheaded to compromise about even the little stuff that makes a relationship work.
Another great point from the article was #7, "He has reasonable expectations of marriage." A man who's never married or at least lived with someone long-term probably won't have a good feel for the day-in, day-out ups and downs that are par for the course when you make a life with someone. A divorced guy would get that. Not every day is going to look like a romantic comedy. Not every day is going to be endless romance. Sometimes you have to mow the yard and fold the laundry and deal with burst pipe in the basement or a sick kid, and it's not going to be glamorous or romantic or sexy and that's that. It's up to you to find the time for reconnecting around and through all the things that make up a life.
What do you think? Do divorced guys make better potential partners?
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