Falling in love is easy, it's staying in love that's the real challenge. Enter author, speaker, and counselor Gary Chapman's best-selling relationship book, .
Full disclosure: This book was first published in 1995, so it's not exactly new. In fact, it's been on the New York Times Best Seller list since 2009. But even after nearly 25 years, people are still singing its praises, saying that Chapman's advice is as relevant as ever. In fact, nearly 13,000 people have given it an average rating of 4.8 on Amazon.
Chapman's belief is simple: In our relationships, we all speak a different love language. Some people place more value on words of encouragement or quality time, while others crave acts of service and physical touch. The key to a happy, long lasting, and easy marriage, he says, is pinpointing each partner's love language and learning to speak it yourself.
Want to find out your own love language? Just answer a From there, the book offers questions, discussions, and activities so that you and your partner can better understand each other.
Obviously, presenting your partner with a "self help" book can get tricky, especially if one of you doesn't exactly feel like your relationship needs saving, but it's worth the potentially tough conversation, according to at least :
"My husband bought this, and at first I was offended. I didn't think anything was wrong with us and I took it as kind of a personal attack. However, we started reading it together and it has just strengthened our marriage. It has helped me realize that we are two different people at the core, so what works for me isn't what best works for him and vise versa. I would recommend to anybody in a relationship that wants it to be long lasting!"
says it's worth the read, even if you're single:
"I truly believe everyone could benefit from reading this book, even if you aren't in a relationship! I have learned so much about myself and it has made my relationship so much stronger, I wish I would have bought it sooner."
The bottom line: At just $9, there's no harm in giving Chapman's advice a shot. You (and your partner) may end up being pleasantly surprised.