I'm sorry to say that this will be my final post. Before I sign off, I feel I should explain: Last week, Maile discovered the blog. I gave her permission to use my laptop to work on a story that she's been writing, and reminded her that she was allowed to open her Word file, but that she wasn't allowed to go online (we have a family computer for that). Alas, she elected to break this long-standing rule, saw where I'd bookmarked the "The Daily WD" site on my toolbar, and clicked. I found out what had happened because she posted a comment. (Gulp. It wasn't pretty.)
Fortunately, she read only the one post, and of course she promised it would never happen again. Unfortunately, although my daughter is a good, sweet girl, I'm not totally sure I can trust that her curiousity won't get the best of her down the road. She understands that the blog is part of my job, but the subject matter concerns her and she might be tempted to click-and-peek again. And so after much soul-searching, and with the understanding support from my exceptional editor, I've decided to retire Mary Astell. I'll miss her, and I hope some of you will too. I learned a lot from her in a very short time, and she's been a comforting companion during the early stages of my break-up. To those of you who have disagreed with what I've said, many thanks for sharing your views. To those of you for whom my story has resonated, I wish you luck as you move forward in your own lives. And to those of you who are my loyal friends, thanks for reading, and for the helpful comments you've given me in private.
I began this blog with a quote from Mary Astell's Some Reflections Upon Marriage, so it seems only fitting I should end with one. I've chosen a quote that I've been trying to keep in mind during my interactions with Don—particularly the tense and touchy ones.
To me, it's a reminder that there are two sides to every story and that only under the most extreme circumstances is one spouse in a dissolving relationship solely to blame. I hope you can appreciate the wisdom in these words as well, whatever the state of your relationship:
"He who will be just, must be forc'd to acknowledge, that neither Sex are always in the right."
All the best,
*Editor's note: Landcruisers plans on introducing a new divorce blogger who can share her story with our readers in 2010 . Please stay tuned in the new year for more!